Comments on: How I Became a Woman

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 01:59:40 +0000

Yay Allysa! Don’t worry, give it a year or two and you’ll be a raving feminist too . I think once we are aware of this whole issue we either stay where we are or swing the complete opposite direction – I don’t think we can end up in a middle “whatever” ground.

You know, when I was younger (even in my 20s) I refused to have anything to do with pink. I hated pink. Stupid really because it is the colour that is most suited to my skin tone – I look awesome in it. I realized recently that I hated pink for all those years because it was a “girly” colour. It implied pom poms and nail polish and vapid blondes and I wasn’t going to be associated with girliness… It amazes me that it took me so long to figure all this out when I look back at it! Seems so obvious from this end.

BTW I believe all progress counts… Even if we occasionally follow it up with a bit of backsliding…

Yours,
Megan

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 01:54:44 +0000

It’s funny, because my mom and I talked and she never overtly put me into a mold; she never said anything to me because she didn’t want to be her father. But still, the messages came through loud and clear because she wasn’t in a place to offer me the opposite message herself. Knowing how I feel, how you feel now it just makes me want to push harder and harder for ideas on how to change it. How do we keep the daughters of our peers (I only have a son don’cha know) from feeling how we felt?

How’s the breaking free going? Do you feel like you are winning the battle? What have you done to change the way you think about it? (That’s me, always looking for more resources!)

Yours,
Megan

By: Megan

Megan — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 01:48:41 +0000

Reading your comment I can almost feel the pain of this; it makes me want to cry and breaks my heart. At least it was my grandFATHER that did it to my mother, when women willingly tear down other women we know we are truly losing this battle, because it means that now we are believing the lies our society has told us about being a woman.

What kind of “clearing sessions” did you do? I’d love to know how you addressed these deep seated beliefs.

Yours,
Megan

By: Evelyn Lim

Evelyn Lim — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:44:36 +0000

I was told that I should have been born a boy by my grandmother. I grew up feeling inadequate and unworthy. It took me a number of clearing sessions to release the past because the conditioning was very deep.

By: StarkRavingZen

StarkRavingZen — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:54:54 +0000

Oh yes, Megan, I can relate. While my mother was packing my oldest brother off to New York City to begin his Ivy League stint at Columbia, she was encouraging her girls to try “tech school” for secretarial skills. And this was in the late 80′s! Not the 50′s…! She too had a horrendous experience as a young woman, and safety (or the lack thereof as a woman) was a prevailing factor in her parenting. I don’t blame her. Who knows how I would have turned out with her father as a parent. But I’ve spent my entire life trying to break free of her cookie-cutter mold. Here’s to those to help others break free.

Kristy

By: Allysa

Allysa — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 23:25:47 +0000

Does that ever ring a bell. I was also very recently diagnosed with PCOS. I absolutley hated being a girl when I was younger I was so resentful that I was supposed to be pretty and quiet and passive. It’s only probably in the last little bit that I’ve even started to think that maybe my gender isn’t a burden. Not sure I’m ready to laud it as a blessing yet but still progress is progress.